How do you date with out being a smut?

I wanna start dating again, the people are so quick to bed down I do not want to but, I do not want to missout on a good guy because I wont put out? I think I already know the answer, just want the community to chime in. BTW I am over 35yrs old. I know is just that like playing baseball or tennis, the object of the game is to score. I just do not feel like playing games right now. Advise please...